Failure

At a young age we are told to dream big. Never lose sight of our dreams. Believe and we will achieve. Your dreams change drastically over time. Reality sets in as you journey through each stage of life and realize that your interests and priorities are shifting. Dreams may become larger or they may shrink in size based on the circumstances you currently face. Dreams could become bigger as you realize that your hard work and determination is paying off and progressively lining each one of your ducks in a row exactly the way you anticipated.
On the other hand life could be going in the completely opposite direction but your dreams may be getting larger as experiences push you to desire a different living for yourself. For instance the girl that once longed for her one true love may turn to aspire for nothing but independence and accepts lonliness. The girl indepentant and stronger than the average person around her could be ready to give up everything she built for herself only to love and be loved by that one person. The girl who found independence, true love, and fulfilled every childhood dream may be reevaluating her successes and questioning whether this really was a dream come true.

Nothing is more disappointing than discovering that what you've been longing for is so far out of your sight. Dreaming can be so exhausting. The emotional rollercoater that it pushes you on when nothing falls into place the way you wanted or everything did fall into place the way you imagined but your heart just does not feel happiness. Chasing dreams can be so exhausting, almost to the point where you begin to believe that dreams are all a matter of luck rather than your internal locus of control. Your hard work and determination should make you feel closer to your dream, but the chase is so overwhelming that the reality of your dreams are moving farther away from you. One obstacle after the other falls in front of your feet. The pain sets and the tears fall as you watch someone around you living your dream. That person who did not nearly try as hard as you, that person that only ran three feet and not a mile like you. We cry when we cannot have what we want. We give up because its so much easier than dealing with the overwhelming cloud of confusion lingering over us. Things happen for a reason and sometimes the goals you set are unachieved for a reason. Sometimes tasting failure is the true success of your life. Failure changes your perception of yourself and the world around you. Failure may help you discover your true identity and your purpose in every institution. Feeling exhausted from chasing your dreams can trigger anger and frustration that will lead you to give up in the end. Things happen for a reason so maybe giving up on your dream and the exhausting chase will help you breath. Appreciate life. Live with the resources you currently have. Let go of dreams and let them run wild on their own even if it means they fall away from your sight for a long period. Maybe with time and zero effort they will come back to be your reality. If it doesnt ever happen, then those dreams were never you.